A respectful upbringing is key to raising confident children. Parents should be the ones to truly foster self-confidence in their little ones. They are responsible for making great contributions to children’s inner, deeper selves.
A deeper understanding of one’s self, interests, strengths, weaknesses, emotions, all that makes them who they are, offers the space for confidence that many of us never had a chance for as children, or even now as adults.
Being involved with our kids’ inner development and addressing those with empathy, truth, and love enormously builds emotional resilience in kids along the process.
Mindful, conscious, and intentional parenting is something that I feel so strongly connected to.
5 Helpful Ways to Raising Confident Children
Here are a few things I have found to be so important in the journey of raising confident children.
Help them foster emotional intelligence
Emotional awareness means that you recognize when you are feeling a certain emotion. When you are emotionally aware, you can identify your feelings, and you become sensitive to other people’s emotions, too.
A child who is self-aware and accepts that all kinds of emotions are welcome, can feel more confident, at ease, and secure in themselves.
What you can do: Listen empathetically and validate your child’s feelings. Avoid statements like, “That’s not a big deal. Get over it.”
Instead, ask your child gently and teach him remarkable moral lessons that relate to the situation.
Guide them in building a growth mindset
Guide children in building their growth mindset so that they can feel secure in the fact that their abilities can always improve.
Growth mindset language: “I am working so hard. I haven’t figured it out yet, but my brain is always growing!”
Fixed mindset language: “This is too hard. I can’t do it.”
Give unconditional love
It’s only when a child feels that they are significant and loved, can they truly feel inspired and able to focus on achieving big things.
Pay attention to your child, and spend enjoyable quality time with them. No matter how busy you are, always make time. They’re only young for a while.
They grow up faster than you can ever imagine. From being tiny humans to their growing up stages, be constantly there for them.
Let them know how important they are. Make them feel loved and valued as they are.
Let their success be their own
This is important.
Avoid rescuing or fixing things for your kids so that they may feel the joy and sense of fulfillment of their success.
This will exercise their resilience and ability to solve their problems moving forward. If we always have a hand in their endeavors, they lose the opportunity to truly feel proud of themselves and recognize their potential.
Encourage them to solve their problems.
When your child comes to you for help, ask them and let them know that you believe in their ability to find solutions.
Children’s confidence in themselves reflects your confidence in them as their parents.
Example: “So that is the case, my love, I see. Your friend broke your crayon, what do you think we can do here?”
Step back and allow your child to weigh things between right and wrong, and allow them to solve the problem.
When you have finally listened to their conclusion, that’s when you can share with them valuable lessons concerning the situation.
Raising confident children isn’t that hard. It only needs patience, consistency and well-mindedness to be able to share remarkable points that will guide them to believe in themselves and grow in virtues, love and light.